What is my purpose?
What is my life’s work? What is my calling? What do I do next? Where do I find my passion?
These are the questions that will make a sister’s head hurt. They sound like several questions, but they are really just different versions of the REAL question: WHO AM I AND WHAT IS MY PURPOSE? I am a Life Coach, Reiki Master and an Energy Therapist. Natalie is a Quantum Hypnotherapist. We “get to” talk to so many people about so many different things. But truth on a cracker is that out of all the topics and situations that our clients bring to us, it almost always comes down to WHO AM I AND WHAT AM I DOING HERE?
We get excited when we hear that question! We get jazzed because we know you aren’t asking one of us, you are having an intimate heart to heart with your Authentic Self. This might possibly be your first play date since you were 7 years old. You know, before everyone else started telling you who you were suppose to be and what you were suppose to do.
Starting this conversation with yourself can sometimes feel like a blind date, not sure what to talk about, vague eye contact, dropped silverware and awkward silence. The GETTING TO KNOW YOU stage can be uncomfortable with a stranger. It can be just as weird when it is the,
"you that doesn’t know”
talking to the
“you that always knows.”
We’ll call it the “perceived you” talking to the REAL you. What do you talk about? How honest do you dare be? What if you don’t like who is looking back at you? That last one can be a real doozy when instead of looking across a table, you are looking in a mirror.
So let’s put this date with yourself on speed dating. Familiar with the concept? You are given key questions to ask each other, weeding out the awkward chit chat. We won’t ask the obscure questions. You know, the kind that gives you too much gravy and not enough potatoes. For example, "If you were a tree what kind of a tree would you be?" Let’s get to the real, GETTING TO KNOW YOU and we mean THE REAL YOU questions. Deep breath, ready to get to the juicy stuff? Here we go:
Imagine a helper showed up at the foot of your bed that knew all the answers to your life’s questions, every secret, dream, whim, intention, and thought. Imagine that this helper had the ability to tell you everything you ever wanted to know about who you are, why you are here, and how you might best spend the rest of your life. This helper might show up as an Angel, a Guide,a Spiritual Master, John Lennon, or Betty White….we’re not attached….your vision…..your call.
Imagine that you were told exactly who you are, what you are about, what your purpose is and how you would gain the highest love, joy, excitement and service from the rest of your time on Earth. Now ask yourself these questions:
What would you do next?
How much time would you now make for “your purpose”?
What would you be willing to stop doing or let go of to make room for fulfilling this purpose? (facebook, bad TV, drama mommas)
How would you treat your body?
What would you allow in your mind?
Who would you allow in your space?
WHAT WOULD YOU DO DIFFERENTLY?
Ok, fast forward or rewind (whichever direction you work from) to the here and now and the words you are reading. Look at your answers. Really look at them.
Now, LIVE those answers. CHOOSE to live in that way. “But there is no Betty White in sight!” you might whine. (that’s ok, a little whining is allowed) “I don’t have that helper and I don’t have those answers!”
We are saying,
ACT AS IF YOU DO LIVE AS IF YOU DO MAKE CHOICES AS IF YOU DO CARE FOR YOURSELF AS IF YOU DO
We absolutely pinky swear…. that before long…..IT WILL BE TRUE.
In any given moment say to yourself, “I may believe I don’t know what my purpose is, but what would a person who does do?
“I may believe I don’t know what to do next, but what would a person who did know do?”
In the words of Caroyln Myss, “What would I do if I weren’t afraid?”
Then go right along with your spaghetti dinner, sip your wine and tip your waiter. This was a successful date. Keep asking the questions and see if a different answer shows up. KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING. You now have somewhere to start building this new relationship. The you that doesn’t know, dating the YOU that does, the REAL you. You guys look hot together and you will make beautiful babies.